As a retired Naturopathic Doctor with 36 years of experience and a special interest in the Mind-Body connection, I have learned that the minds of men and women are different. I’m not talking about brain structure, intelligence, brain power, or equality issues here. I am talking about the differences in the way men and women approach life issues—how their minds collect data and how it is interpreted. These differences are crucial for all men to understand, particularly young men.
At no time in our history has it been more confusing to be “male.” If you scroll through TikTok, you’ll notice the average young male is totally lost. He has no idea what it means to be a “man” in society. No one is guiding him or showing him how.
The Confusion of Modern Masculinity
I remember those teenage years of feeling alone and insecure—thinking, “How do I evolve into the confident, passionate, purposeful man I want to be?” I recall pacing back and forth in front of my phone (a rotary dial…remember those?) and spending hours willing myself to call a young woman I had a crush on. It took me three days.
The fear of potentially being rejected was intense. I wish I knew then what I know now.
The Truth About Fear and the Subconscious Mind
Fear comes in two forms: real and imagined. The imagined variety originates from subconscious programming that we receive early in childhood.
In my decades of practice, I realized just how powerful subconscious programming is and how it affects the daily lives of both men and women.
Our “reality” is a reflection of the subconscious programs we allow to run. Make no mistake—this is how our reality as we know it is created.
How the Subconscious Mind Shapes Our Lives
95% of who we are and what we do in life is dictated by the Subconscious Mind—our Emotional and Automatic mind. Our Conscious Minds only account for about 5% of our actions in life. The rest is a reaction from the levels of the mind below the Conscious.
Just like the computers we use daily, our minds are programmed. We do have the choice of what programs we allow to run. But here’s the catch: It is up to the Conscious Mind to become “aware” of the programs running and to take action. We must take control of our Subconscious Mind and reprogram it to align with our desired goals and create a new reality.
The Biggest Myth About Being a Man
Contrary to popular belief, men have fears. We have doubts. We have needs (and not just for sex). The biggest myth about being a man is that a “real” man should not have feelings—or, at the very least, never show them.
Men of my generation are “action-oriented” or “fix-it” oriented. When I become aware of “what I don’t know, I don’t know,” I tend to take action. I realize now that most men really don’t know the truth about themselves—how we think and why we act the way we do. For men to become the best version of themselves, these “universal truths” must become known and acted upon.
Key Takeaways
- Men and women think differently: For a man to understand the mind of a woman, he must first acknowledge that the minds of men and women differ in how they collect and interpret data.
- Our reality mirrors our subconscious programming: The subconscious mind drives 95% of our actions and responses.
- Gender-specific programming: Subconscious programs often have gender-specific influences that affect behavior and thinking.
- Men have genuine fears and needs: These emotions and thoughts originate from subconscious programming and should not be dismissed.
- Personal growth requires action: To become the best version of himself, a man must take control of his subconscious mind and align it with the reality he wants to create.
Conclusion
Understanding the mind of a woman begins with understanding oneself. By exploring our subconscious programming and recognizing our fears, doubts, and needs, we can bridge the gap between our conscious intentions and subconscious reactions. True masculinity is not about suppressing emotions but about consciously choosing the programs that run our lives, ultimately creating the reality we desire.
Dr. G